What to try if the kid doesn't need to try to do homework?

Instead of taking lessons, your child constantly searches for more interesting activities, and when he finally sits at the desk, he grumbles, complains and even cries? In many homes it is an everyday life that should be changed for the sake of the child and for your peace. What to try if the kid doesn't need to try to do homework.

Maybe it will be a little consolation, but the fact that your child does not want to do their homework is by no means exceptional - hardly any student in Poland sits down on their own, and as the research conducted by various educational portals shows, for the vast majority of many students and their parents it is only a painful duty.

Unfortunately, so far we as parents have no influence on the education system or the core curriculum - but we can do a lot for our own child to start doing homework with joy and the conviction that this work makes sense.

Table of Contents:

Let me rest

Take your cell phone, tablet and chips

Find the reason for the dislike

Make sure it's not overloaded

Motivate wisely

Teach to be responsible

Let me rest

Even though the average child has a lot more energy than the average adult, he also has a right to be physically and mentally tired after school - the hours spent in racketeering and noise during breaks negatively affect his nervous system.

Therefore, it needs to regenerate, so do not rush your child to lessons immediately after returning from school - let him eat, rest, find a moment to read a book, play on the console.

Think of it not as a breach of duty, but as a breath for your brain. Let this hour, one and a half break from study become your daily, established ritual.

Take your cell phone, tablet and chips

Only books, notebooks and school supplies should be on a well-lit desk. A computer, phone, tablet and all other distractions, even as trivial as a bowl of chips, will disturb your concentration. It's hard to focus on the task at hand when there is so much temptation around, right?

Find the reason for the dislike

Also find out if the child does not like to do all their homework without exception, or if the reluctance is about one or two subjects. In this case, the reason for articalponing them indefinitely may be arrears - the student does not understand the material, so he does not know how to do homework. In this case, it is usually enough to catch up to make the problem disappear.

The reason for reluctance to take lessons can also be stress related to what was happening or going on in the classroom, especially social relationships, which are very important for teenagers and which have a huge impact on their well-being and emotions. If your child is worried about something, maybe he or she simply has no head to learn - that is also worth determining.

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First of all, remember that doing your homework cannot be linked to home rewards and prohibitions, so it cannot be a 'something for something' transaction. Unfortunately, children find themselves in it very quickly, their "demands" will grow, and failure to meet the conditions of "exchange" may result in an immediate conflict, starting with "You promised!"

A home replacement system can only be a short-term and temporary solution. Our long-term goal is to naturally motivate your child to do homework.

What tools do we have to implement the motivation:

• Possible constant work schedule, including free time, rest and other activities.
• Building a good atmosphere before doing homework.
• Praise in the process and a family reward at the end.
• Taking care of a proper and properly prepared place.
• Positive and responsible inclusion of other family members in the homework system (primarily both parents).
• We strive to ensure that doing homework is an element of common, nice, family activities that is our family life, in the best sense. Good luck!

Make sure it's not overloaded

The self-preservation instinct is one of the mechanisms by which humanity has been able to survive. Contrary to appearances, this mechanism also works in a matter as seemingly trivial for survival as everyday learning. And although the child's brain is absorbent, the excess of activities and stimuli during the day, week or month may make him say at some point: enough.

With the constant reluctance to do housework, it is worth taking a look at the child's weekly schedule: maybe he or she simply has too many activities and can no longer cope? If this is the case, think with your child about reducing the number of extracurricular activities or articalponing some for the weekend.

Motivate wisely

A common mistake is to bribe the child to start doing homework regularly - sweets, the promise of a new game or even a better phone will not motivate him for longer, it will only make your child constantly expect gifts for even the most trivial activities. Better to try to motivate them so that they feel that they want to sit down to books.

However, there is no specific method here, as it all depends on your situation, as well as the age and interests of the child. If he would play on the computer for days, maybe the motivation for him will be the fact that someday, in the future, he may not only play, but also create new games, but also have to complete the appropriate studies. But if that was the case, now he has to study and do his homework.

Teach to be responsible

It is worth trying at every opportunity to teach your child to be responsible and get used to duties - including school duties. He must feel that his duty is not only to clean his room or go out with his dog, but also to do homework and prepare for tests.

It may not be easy at first, especially if you haven't left too much room for your child for their own activities, by doing everything for them.

Start with small steps: when you packed his books so far, let him do the same (at the beginning it is worth making sure that everything is packed several times).

Did you remind about tests and reading? Therefore, have a blackboard at the desk on which your child will now hang up important school information on his own. Gradually you will come to that point when it decides it's time to sit down and start your lessons.