Many parents feel completely exhausted at the end of the day. Take the child to school, collect his briefcase, pick him up from school after school, teach him homework, cook dinner, bathe, read before bed … Add to this work and other activities, without which it is impossible to imagine adult life. In the evening, parents barely have the strength to get to bed. And this routine is repeated daily. Every day you spend with a small child seems like a week, and every week is a month. How to spend and pay quality time with your child.
However, when you celebrate a child’s birthday, it seems to you that time flies incredibly fast. In an instant, a one-year-old becomes five years old, a little more – and she is already fifteen. Every day is a reason for parents to marvel at their child’s new achievements. But the rapid pace of modern life often prevents parents from enjoying all the features of childhood.
Recently, such new trends as “slow” upbringing, conscious parenting, etc. are known. However, many experts emphasize that the whole educational process comes down to one principle: parents should spend more quality time with their children. When you sum up the time his child spends on his daily activities, sleeping, being with friends or a babysitter, or somewhere outside the home, you will begin to appreciate more the rest of the time you have left to spend with your child.
Some statistics: from the birth of a child to the moment when she finishes school and enters the university – only 1,880 days off. If the child is 5 years old, it means that 520 days off have passed. The older the child, the more often his weekends are spent talking to friends or a number of other things. The same – on weekdays. During the week you are able to carve out only a few hours to spend with your child.
However, don’t worry about how much time you can spend with your child; instead, focus on getting the most out of these moments. Parents often compensate for the lack of time with its quality. A two-hour walk in the park. In the evening – a trip to the movies. Dinner at the restaurant. But the truth is that quality time can be when you do not expect it at all – not only in the park, but also, for example, when you drive a car or go to the movies.
If you have a busy schedule, imagine that your child has grown up and started living an independent life. Imagine her room, which is often cluttered, clean and tidy. Then immerse yourself in the present moment and realize that the chaos and disorder that irritates you is not forever.
It is unlikely that every day you spend with your child will be perfect, but once she starts an independent life, you will feel deep satisfaction, because you gave her everything to succeed in life, and yourself – everything, to become successful parents. Time cannot be slowed down, but it can be optimized. Therefore, while the child is still with you and arranges a mess in his room, go to her at bedtime to say good night.
Meditation for parents
When you are overwhelmed with daily worries, you can easily start communicating with your child automatically and abstractly. If you are next to a child, and your mind is hovering somewhere far away, it means that you do not communicate with him at all. Instead, meditate: focus on your child and try to hear, understand, and marvel at how fast he or she is growing and learning.
Bedtime can be quite hectic for a child. An effective way to calm her down is a “pajama” walk. Of course, you should walk in pajamas only in good weather. This will help your child relax, and you – to spend time with her, which could be spent watching cartoons or computer games. The main element of such a walk – pajamas. When the child has bathed, brushed his teeth and put on pajamas, put him in a stroller (or, if the child is a little older – just put on sneakers) and take a leisurely walk. Do not take food for a walk (because the child has already brushed his teeth), do not play active games, you cannot even talk. A short walk will prepare the child for sleep after returning home.
Repair things together
Repair the crane, change the tires in the car or paint the fence with the child. Home renovation is a good opportunity to spend time with your child and enrich it with useful skills. There is always something to fix in the attic or in the basement. Give the child a flashlight and explain what you are doing. As your child gets older, allow him or her to take part in the repair work under your guidance. Thanks to this, in old age the child will not be afraid that something may break in the house, because he will be able to repair things on his own.
Walk more often
When we try to save time, we drive everywhere, even for short distances, we actually lose precious moments that we can spend with the child. The next time you need to take your child somewhere, walk there. A walk together is a great way to “slow down” and spend more time with your child. Tell her where you are going, and talk about what you see along the way. Hold the child’s hand if she is not yet ashamed of it.
If you take your child to training or music school and usually come back to pick him up, you can take a work laptop or book with you to have a good time. After the training is over, take the child home.
Play with her child in her games
If you bought a game console for your child, learn to play it yourself. So you can get acquainted with her world. Why is this important? First, games evoke a spirit of rivalry, and children enjoy seeing their parents as ordinary people with human emotions. Second, even if you don’t play a game very well, it will be fun. Third, many games mimic real action (such as football, basketball, and a number of other sports). If you can’t really play these games with your child, computer games will help you. However, do not give them too much time, because virtual reality can replace physical.
Treat your child with ice cream or popcorn on Sunday
Everyone knows that modern children often suffer from overweight. And, of course, we don’t want that for our children. However, they need to feel like children at any age. Create special traditions based on your child’s preferences. These traditions will be of great importance to the child, as they will be used infrequently. On a hot summer day, try ice cream with your child, spend cold winter evenings with a cup of hot cocoa in your hands, and take popcorn with you to the movies or to a football match. Sprinkle ice cream well with chocolate, and flavor cocoa well with warm hugs. If you give your child only healthy food, apple pie will also come in handy. Food in these traditions is not the main thing. The treat will help you communicate with the child, will create unforgettable memories. The child will remember the traditions of your family for life.
If you use every opportunity to spend quality time with your child, you will not only be good parents, but also set an example for the child in the future, when he will have his own family. Show your child how much you value the time you spend with her, and you will contribute to future generations.