There are many supporters of adaptation at all stages of life and for everything, not just for school. Any change that has to faced generates uncertainty. So preventing it is essential for there to be a good result and said change to be positive.
The first thing to know is that the attitude of the parents is fundamental. As it is a change for everyone, it is normal for the child’s usual caregivers to begin to feel different emotions and sensations. There are cases in which the parents feel guilt even before the time comes to leave the child at the door.
Feelings of sadness, guilt, of not being good fathers or mothers. Assault the parents more than a month before they start going to their first center. Although this is widespread, there are many parents who feel this; it is also true that it is absurd since more than 96% of 3-year-old children are in school according to data.
I understand that it is not normal for anyone to take the pain away, but we have to be aware that in the post-industrial society in which we live this is common and, what is more, the 2030 Agenda aims to achieve schooling for all minors in the second stage of Infantile (from 3 to 6 years).
Therefore, we have to see it as something positive. A stage in which different cognitive abilities developed that we, at home, could not achieve, at least as efficiently as they do at the center.
Seeing it as something positive, knowing that our son is going to begin to develop his abilities, and that, in addition, falls within normality, will allow us to have control of the situation, but the most important thing is that it will allow us to transmit that , precisely, to our minor. If we anguished, fearful, thinking that things are not going to go well for him, that he has going to crying all day… the little one anguished, fearful, feeling that everything is bad and crying all day. Be careful, I’m not saying that this can’t happen the same way because each child is different; I mean that the child shouldn’t be predisposed to a stage like this, but rather it should be done with joy and positivity and then, well, we’ll see what happens.
In the second instance. It is convenient to tell him about the wonderful center that he is going to go to: with a lot of children to play all the time. How much fun it is going to be and how good the teacher (or the teacher) is. Discussing this new stage with minors opens up a channel of communication that will allow us to make sure that this is indeed the case. Then it the case that your daughter, in particular. Does not enjoy or do not have as much fun as you expect. But in general, the first two weeks certainly misplaced and then they get used to it.
Because of course, until now they are the protagonists of the family. They spoken to in a certain language. Their needs immediately attended to and, suddenly. There as many princes and princesses as they are and they begin to speak to them in different terms or tones. . This has always going to be shocking to the minor. In addition, in a physical space in which he has never been. So we must add the feeling of insecurity that this entails.
There is a high probability that he will cry. That he will not participate, that he will not let go of his stuffed animal. And even that he will hit other children. And there are also those that vomit or have a small learning regression. All this is normal and you don’t have to stop those sensations. You have to know how to handle them, how?
Well, not giving him the option to think that if he cries louder or gets angrier. We are going to stay with him a while longer or we are going to take him away from there. Therefore, it is best to leave him at the door and say goodbye briefly and with a smile. When you pick up a minor. If he or she is sad or crying, act normal and don’t say phrases like “poor little boy. We left you alone” as these types of phrases increase any sense of abandonment he may have.
From here, serenity. As a parent you have to provide the serenity that your child is going to lose these first few weeks. Be patient and, above all. Follow the guidelines that the educator tells you because he has the key for the adaptation to be total. Satisfactory and complete.